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Dealing With Your Honey’s Family

DEALING WITH YOUR HONEY’S FAMILY
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
OCTOBER 10, 2005
BY JULIA ALLISON

I’m not sure what it says about me, but I’ve been having problems with the relatives of guys I date since I was 16 years old.

My first love’s parents banned me from their house. My college boyfriend’s sister and I actually had a fistfight. And the last guy I dated had a brother who just wouldn’t warm up to me – his allegiance lay with my guy’s ex-wife.

The Case Against Monogamy

COED MAGAZINE
SEPTEMBER 2005
BY JULIA ALLISON

Cheating is a funny subject.  On one end of the spectrum is Jessica Simpson, who seems to feel that her husband looking at another woman is cheating.  On the other is Bill Clinton, who seems to feel that having sex with a woman – as long as his wife isn’t actually in the room – is not cheating.

Clearly our beliefs about the issue aren’t universal.

Sad Sack: Crying During Sex

COED MAGAZINE
APRIL 2005
BY JULIA ALLISON

Ask any man about women crying during sex and you’ll get a strange reaction.

First, there’s The Blank Stare – they have no idea what you’re talking about.

Then there’s the silence, which lasts … and lasts …  enough time for you to rethink the three glasses of champagne you had before you brought up the damn topic.

Just as you’re planning an escape route, he gives you this look – like you’ve somehow seen into his bedroom, circa high school.  He’s astounded.  “Once,” he [read more...]

The Sad Triumph of Ugly Men

COED MAGAZINE
JANUARY 2005
BY JULIA ALLISON

Watching football – involuntarily – with The Boyfriend last week, I found myself bombarded by beer commercials during the breaks.  Now, given that I don’t much drink beer (real women drink straight tequila), I wasn’t interested in the actual brands.  Still, I found myself transfixed by the appearance of the women. No, scratch that.  The couples.

How to Give & Get the Best Holiday Gifts

HOW TO GIVE & GET THE BEST HOLIDAY GIFTS
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
DECEMBER 5, 2003

My roommate and her boyfriend just celebrated their one-year anniversary, a time of intense stress for many guys, given that they’re forced to, well, produce a perfect evening.

He came through with flying colors, surprising her with a horse and carriage, a lovely dinner out and, yes, a robin’s-egg-blue box from Tiffany’s.  She was practically floating when she came home (ahem, the next morning), and I’m sure he wasn’t doing too badly either — she had just given [read more...]

For Love Advice, Brothers Are Pretty Worthless

FOR LOVE ADVICE, BROTHERS ARE PRETTY WORTHLESS
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
NOVEMBER 14, 2003

What do men really want?

Hell if I know.  They don’t usually like to say.  And whenever I force one to grudgingly enlighten me, I’m pretty sure most of his response comes out of his … well, not his mouth.

Lying to members of the opposite sex isn’t solely a male idiosyncrasy.  Women fib just as much — and about a wider variety of subjects — but we’re usually better at it, perhaps because we like smaller, [read more...]

Real World Stars: Hot But Probably Not Boyfriend Material

REAL WORLD STARS: HOT BUT PROBABLY NOT BOYFRIEND MATERIAL
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
NOVEMBER 7, 2003

We of the MTV generation have a curious relationship with the stars we mythologize.  Some of us put pictures of Justin Timberlake on the wall.  Some of us score backstage passes to 50 Cent.  And some of us — well, me — ask a “Real World” cast member to drop his drawers for a shot of tequila at McFadden’s.

He did. It was nothing new to him — he’d done it on national television.  And probably not [read more...]

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do: A Plan for Recovery

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO: A PLAN FOR RECOVERY
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
OCTOBER 31, 2003

Last Christmas, my stereotypically-older-and-wiser cousin Andrea gave me a book called It’s Not Me … It’s YOU!: A Modern Girl’s Guide to Breaking Up.  I wasn’t dating anyone at the time, and I really didn’t feel the need to prepare for an unpleasant hypothetical, so I put the fuzzy purple volume away on my shelf in between A Catholic Girl’s Guide to Sex and The Monks of New Skete — How to Be Your Dog’s [read more...]

The Virginity Question: Holding Out for a Hero?

THE VIRGINITY QUESTION: HOLDING OUT FOR A HERO?
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
OCTOBER 10, 2003

Back in the day – the day being my junior year in high school – my girl friends and I established a club of sorts. We called it the V-Club, and every year it got smaller, as one by one we surrendered our V-cards and crossed the line into “womanhood.”

Apparently I wasn’t the only one to have a club like this. Just down the hall from me lives a rare group of seniors – six of them, [read more...]

Under Where?!
What Guys Should Learn to Wear Under There

WHAT GUYS SHOULD LEARN TO WEAR UNDER THERE
THE HOYA
SEX ON THE HILLTOP
SEPTEMBER 26, 2003

If you made it to Student Activities Fair two weeks ago, you might have spotted me holding up a pair of bright pink lace “boy-short” panties, harassing innocent passersby.

“Any comments on these hot little undies?” I inquired.

After recovering from the initial shock of being confronted by such a garment in the usually lingerie-free student center, most guys stammered:

“Yeah, I prefer boxers.”

Interesting. So do I.