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Give Thanks to the Ones You’re NOT With

GIVE THANKS TO THE ONES YOU’RE NOT WITH
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
NOVEMBER 20, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON
 

This Thanksgiving, we should all give thanks –­ to our exes.

Thanks for the jewelry! Thanks for the therapy bills! Thanks for the chlamydia!

Don’t Wanna Date Me? Now I’m Hooked

DONT WANNA DATE ME? NOW I’M HOOKED
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
NOVEMBER 13, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

A few weeks ago, a guy who had once eagerly asked me out sent me an e-mail with a shockingly straightforward missive: "I’m just not that into you."

In the three months since I’ve been single, I’ve gotten several rejections, all for disparate reasons. Oddly, my response to each of them has been identical — previously uninterested, I was hooked. I wanted them all to fall madly in love with me and propose in Vegas, preferably next [read more...]

Spilling the Secret to Meeting Guys

SPILLING THE SECRET TO MEETING GUYS
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
NOVEMBER 6, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

You know that one friend who whines constantly about her love life, repeatedly asks for your advice, and then invariably refuses to take it?

Alyssa Shelasky is not that friend.

Carrie Bradshaw 101: The Rise of the College Sex Columnist

COED MAGAZINE
NOVEMBER 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Being a former college sex columnist is a dubious distinction.

I wrote news articles my freshman year (you know – riveting stuff like “Famed Physicist Addresses Packed Auditorium Crowd,” and the like).  No one read them.  But the first piece I did for my new column “Sex on the Hilltop,” the crowds (all 23 people who read the Georgetown student newspaper) went wild.  Okay, okay … or someone wrote an offended letter to the editor, which is pretty much the same thing.

“Sex and college go hand in [read more...]

Gentlemen prefer brains?

GENTLEMEN PREFER BRAINS?
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
OCTOBER 23, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

"Being a maid would have enhanced my chances with men. Guys want to be in relationships with women they don’t have to talk to."
– Maureen Dowd, ‘Are Men Necessary?’ (2005)

Matchmaking Moms: Cute or Pathetic?

MATCHMAKING MOMS: CUTE OR PATHETIC?
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
OCTOBER 9, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

My mom is not the ‘matchmaker type.’

The first ­ and last ­ time I asked her to set me up, she looked at me like I had just suggested she foot the bill for a Trump Tower apartment. Preferably a penthouse.

Waking up to the Wide World of Sports

WAKING UP TO THE WIDE WORLD OF SPORTS
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
OCTOBER 2, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

To say I’m not a sports fan is a bit of an understatement. Besides consistently (and predictably) being picked last in gym class, I managed to live in Chicago during the Bulls ‘peat-a-thon and never attend a game, and I didn’t know who Terrell Owens was until last week. (Does that mean it’s football season?)

In other words, dating a sports fanatic is my worst nightmare.

First Date Follies

FIRST DATE FOLLIES
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
SEPTEMBER 25, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

The funny thing about being single again is that all my eagerness to go on first dates has been rapidly replaced by the realization that these events are only valuable insomuch as they provide me with a ridiculous story to tell.

Since I’m a big fan of ridiculous stories (note my career choice), I have no problem with such dates. I happily subscribe to the philosophy espoused by my friend, the comedian and professional recovering frat-boy Aaron Karo — AFS: Anything [read more...]

Party of One

PARTY OF ONE
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
SEPTEMBER 20, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

If you’re one of the 95 million Americans who stubbornly refuse to join in wedded bliss, the commemorative holiday you’ve been feverishly anticipating is finally here.

That’s right, spouse-less slackers, it’s NATIONAL UNMARRIED AND SINGLE AMERICANS WEEK!

What Men Want (Women to Wear)

WHAT MEN WANT (WOMEN TO WEAR)
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
SEPTEMBER 14, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Last week, in preparation for the upcoming change in seasons, I lugged 20 pounds of women’s magazines home with me for a Fall Fashion read-in.

Swollen and unwieldy with the traditional glut of September ad pages, the massive Elle, enormous Glamour, and truly elephantine Vogue all trumpeted their opinions on what I "must wear" this autumn: