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Sex! Tips! from Cosmo

SEX! TIPS! FROM COSMO
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
JULY 10, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

No one has ever accused Cosmopolitan of being subtle.

So it’s not surprising that the latest book from Cosmo’s editor in chief, the irrepressible Kate White, sports one of the most gutsy cover designs I’ve ever seen.

Trapped in a Bad Break-Up

TRAPPED IN A BAD BREAK-UP
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
JUNE 26, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

A journalist sent me an e-mail a few weeks ago, looking for couples who had split but continued to live together, a la "The Break-Up." I snorted and thought, ‘Who would be so stupid?? Good luck trying to find people like that, sucker!’

After sending her a dismissive reply, I forgot about it ­ until last week.

Thirteen Simple Rules for Dealing with my Dad

THIRTEEN SIMPLE RULES FOR DEALING WITH MY DAD
AM NEW YORK – “THE DATING LIFE”
JUNE 19, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

My father is not big or tall. He does not own shotguns. And he has never threatened to murder any of my boyfriends with his bare hands.

He doesn’t need bare hands – he’s a lawyer. He cross-examines them to death.

Ex-Dating Columnist Dishes on Herself and NYC

EX-DATING COLUMNIST DISHES ON HERSELF AND NYC
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
JUNE 12, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

The world of dating columnists is a small one, made smaller still by a continual exodus from the field, due to marriage (Amy Sohn), fame (Candace Bushnell) or the inevitable burnout (too many to name).

Bridget Harrison left for the final reason, but she persevered longer than most. Her column in the Sunday New York Post ran for three and a half years, earning the English-born journalist doyenne-status in a profession filled with neophytes.

Can’t Get a date? Yes, You Can

CAN’T GET A DATE? YES, YOU CAN
MAY 22, 2006
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
BY JULIA ALLISON

Despite my embarrassing devotion to self-improvement and a fondness for makeovers that rivals Tyra Banks, I’ve always disliked dating-reformation shows.

The hosts tend to be irritating, obsequious and bland, while the so-called "relationship experts" seem more interested in looking good on camera, spewing one-size-fits-all clichés and touting their newest book (in bookstores now!).

Getting Hitched – and Announcing It Obnoxiously in the New York Times

GETTING HITCHED – AND ANNOUNCING IT OBNOXIOUSLY IN THE NYT
AM NEW YORK – “THE DATING LIFE”
MAY 15, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

There are two types of women in this city: those who adore the New York Times Weddings announcements and hope they’ll be featured, and those who think such announcements are insufferable, archaic and pretentious … and hope they’ll be featured.

I’m the latter.

The Afterlife of a Prom Gown

THE AFTERLIFE OF A PROM GOWN
NEW YORK MAGAZINE
MAY 15, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Variations on Monogamy

VARIATIONS ON MONOGAMY
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
MAY 8, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

The dictates of love in this society are clear: you’re either monogamous or you’re alone.

Faced with options like that, it’s no wonder monogamy won as the leading format a long time ago. VHS and Beta at least had a fair fight.

Power Is An Aphrodisiac* …
(But Only If You Have a Y Chromosome)

POWER IS AN APHRODISIAC* (BUT ONLY IF YOU HAVE A Y CHROMOSOME)
AM NEW YORK – “THE DATING LIFE”
MAY 1, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Power – and its uncanny ability to inflate (or deflate) one’s sexual desirability – has been on my mind lately.

It started two weeks ago, when Ariel Levy, author of Female Chauvinist Pigs, told me that Martha Stewart was “hot.”  Like, “really hot.”

Full’er up: Dating advice from Bonnie

FULL’ER UP: DATING ADVICE FROM BONNIE
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
APRIL 24, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

 

Bonnie Fuller believes in ultimatums. More than 23 years ago, she gave her now-husband a big one: "Either propose in six months or it’s over."

That was their third date.