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Relationship biology: Hard-wired to frustrate?

RELATIONSHIP BIOLOGY: HARD-WIRED TO FRUSTRATE?
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
APRIL 17, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

 

Women constantly seek improvement ­ of themselves ("Extreme Makeover"), their surroundings ("Extreme Makeover ­ Home Edition"), and of course, their relationships (umm–Dr. Phil?).

Men, on the other hand, won’t read the manual until it doesn’t work.

Ultimate Playboy Hugh Hefner turns 80

ULTIMATE PLAYBOY HUGH HEFNER TURNS 80
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
APRIL 10, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Hugh Hefner was just 27 years old when he launched the first issue of Playboy, featuring the iconic Marilyn Monroe shot with "nothing on but the radio."

Sunday–53 years, two marriages, four children and countless girlfriends later–the original Playboy officially became an octogenarian.

Snooping and Telling

SNOOPING AND TELLING
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

APRIL 3, 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

There are three kinds of snoopers in this digital age: strictly online, real world, and then there’s "Jane."

Jane, a 25-year-old Northwestern graduate who asked that her real name not be used, has a black belt in Snooping, primarily on her boyfriend of almost four years, Ted, a 26-year-old reporter for an Illinois newspaper.

Get the Kissing You Crave

GET THE KISSING YOU CRAVE
COSMOPOLITAN
APRIL 2006
BY JULI A ALLISON

There’s nothing worse than having a fabulous date with a sexy man, anticipating the moment when your lips will finally lock for the first time and … it’s awful.  Total buzzkill.

Quick and dirty snooping online

QUICK AND DIRTY SNOOPING ONLINE

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

MARCH 27,2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

I am an inveterate, brazen and unrepentant dating snooper.

Actually, in the Age of Google-as-a-Verb, most of us are. We don’t think of ourselves like this – but snooping (at least electronically) is no longer considered taboo. It’s just assumed that hours after meeting someone you’re interested in, you’ll type their name into various search engines, followed by MySpace, Friendster and Facebook (and Match.com, Jdate and EHarmony, just in case).

How long do you rebound?

HOW LONG DO YOU REBOUND?

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

MARCH 20, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

Both of my roommates recently broke up with their long-term boyfriends, so rebounding flawlessly is our subject du jour.

Ah, Rebound Time (or RT) — the sometimes gut-wrenching, sometimes gratifying but always cathartic experience after a big break-up. Although I’m a believer in embracing the proper RT for maximum personal growth (I love personal growth), I see women trying to exit that process as quickly as possible, which undermines its positive impact. So just how long should RT be?

Taking a break from the same-old

TAKING A BREAK FROM THE SAME-OLD

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

MARCH 13, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

A month ago today, men all over the city were racking their brains for creative ways to woo their women (or at least not totally make them angry) on February 14th. Even if they made it through Valentine’s Day unscathed, they’re not off the hook; ­after all, men are always expected to coordinate the romance. They do the asking out, they plan and pay for the date, and eventually, they buy the ring and propose.

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HOTMail: The New Technology of Dating

COED MAGAZINE
MARCH 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

A friend of mine at the University of North Carolina happily describes herself as “a COMMITTED online stalker.”  “I crave information,” she says, “and sometimes that’s not a good thing.”  Ah, technology – creating new armchair detectives with every Google search.

Whether or not you’ve ever used Match.com (which I assume you haven’t, given that it’s within the purview of the 45-64 demo), you’ve probably noticed the growing range and influence of methods for gathering information on your crushes.  Or your exes.  Or their exes.

In Your Face! The College Entrepreneurs of Facebook

COED MAGAZINE
MARCH 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

Little more than two years ago, Harvard roommates Mark Zuckerberg, Dustin Moskovitz and Chris Hughes were all fairly normal college sophomores.  They slept in, they studied occasionally, and for 10 days during winter finals they rallied around Mark as he programmed a little website called … Facebook.

Ah, Facebook.  Launched to the world of Harvard (is there another?) on February 4th, 2004, it has since expanded to more than 2,100 campuses and become a bona fide phenomenon.  A sensation.  A revolution.  And for millions of college students fighting against [read more...]

When older men date younger women

WHEN OLDER MEN DATE YOUNGER WOMEN

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

FEBRUARY 27, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

There are very few things I don’t approve of these days – I like gay marriage, birth control, Hillary Clinton and plastic surgery. But I cannot endorse mustaches (hipster or otherwise), VH1′s "Celebreality," or older guys dating younger women.

The last is more than a little ironic — as it happens, tomorrow is my birthday, which means the guy I’m currently dating will "only" be 12 years older than me. Oops