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Dating advice from the rich and famous

DATING ADVICE FROM THE RICH AND FAMOUS

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

FEBRUARY 20, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

I am an avid reader of self-help books, and by "avid" I mean, "completely obsessed." My bookshelves would scare away anyone NOT holding a master’s degree in psychology with a minor in personal-development, and even then, it’s dicey.

So when I saw that Paula Froelich had come out with her own celebrity laden motivational tome, I had to have it. Froelich, a veteran scribe for the New York Post’s implausibly venerable Page Six gossip column, was "tired of people asking [read more...]

A Valentine’s Day for cheaters

A VALENTINE’S DAY FOR CHEATERS

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

FEBRUARY 13, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

Monday is Valentine’s Day for cheaters. Or so a friend of mine, one with a long and storied history of infidelity, mentioned to me recently.

This particular friend, who we¹ll call Steve (to protect the guilty), regularly schedules "business dinners" with his various lovers on the day before Valentine’s Day, leaving him free to spend the actual holiday with his wife.

Valoween: A badly needed makeover for a boring old holiday

VALOWEEN: A BADLY NEEDED MAKEOVER FOR A BORING OLD HOLIDAY

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

FEBRUARY 5, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

I have to admit — my past two Valentine’s Day columns, seeped in saccharine optimism, weren’t exactly crowd favorites.

"Overly sentimental," "Boring," "Way too preachy." And that was from my mother!

More on V-day: Lots of clichés

MORE ON V-DAY: LOTS OF CLICHES

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

JANUARY 23, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

Valentine’s Day is so fraught with clichés that there’s nothing remotely original left to say about it. You can’t say you love it. Been done, obviously. You can’t say you hate it. Definitely been done, with vitriol by people even more bitter than you.

And you certainly can’t use the word Hallmark and over-commercialized in the same sentence. You might as well stamp "trite" on your forehead.

 

Why you should love Valentine’s Day

WHY YOU SHOULD LOVE VALENTINE’S DAY

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

JANUARY 23, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

I received an email last week which grouched: "The dirty little secret about Valentine’s Day is … EVERYBODY HATES IT."

Um …. no they don’t. They definitely don’t. In fact, everyone LOVES Valentine’s day, they just don’t like when their Valentine’s Day sucks.

Sucked into ‘The Bachelor’

SUCKED INTO ‘THE BACHELOR’

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

JANUARY 16, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

I have to admit, I’ve never watched The Bachelor before last week. The hormone-charged, fake-mansion-housed catfight for love never held my attention.

Maybe it’s my tendency to become acutely embarrassed for the poor bachelorettes, who seem to alternate between sounding desperate "I’m here to find me a MAN," and getting rejected, "Why??? WHY DON’T YOU LOVE ME? We’ve only known each other three days but you were my SOULMATE and I WANT THAT ROSE, DAMNIT!"

Picking up more than groceries

PICKING UP MORE THAN GROCERIES

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

JANUARY 9, 2006

BY JULIA ALLISON

The hottest new pick up joint isn’t a single monikered bar or a club, like Marquee or Stereo. It’s a little grocery store called Whole Foods.

As the self-proclaimed "World’s Leading Natural and Organic Foods Supermarket," they attract a certain sort of New Yorker: Hot, Healthy and able to describe the taste of "Tofurky."

New Year’s Dating Resolution

NEW YEAR’S DATING RESOLUTION

AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"

BY JULIA ALLISON

JANUARY 2, 2006

I’m a New Years Resolutions kind of girl. I love making them and the bigger, the better. From dieting ("no food. Ever.") and exercise ("twice a day for three hours each!") to drinking ("limit alcohol intake to one color at a time") and debt ("never buy anything again").

For dating, I go all out. In 2004, I resolved to have no sex. (It was a long year.) In 2005, I resolved to get laid – fast.

No College Guy Left Behind

COED MAGAZINE
JANUARY 2006
BY JULIA ALLISON

The focus of the average male’s college education is three-pronged:  1) Maintain nocturnal hours so as to sleep easily during class. 2) Master the art of beer pong. 3) Get laid as often as possible.

The third, of course, causes the most trouble (although depending on your level of intoxication, beer pong can be tricky too), especially for those men who aren’t, well, traditional studs.

Neil Strauss is one of those men – or he was, at least.  Author of “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup [read more...]

The Worst Holiday Gifts for Your Girl

THE WORST HOLIDAY GIFTS FOR YOUR GIRL
AM NEW YORK – "THE DATING LIFE"
BY JULIA ALLISON
DECEMBER 19, 2005

Women can find fault with pretty much any gift a man tries to give her – even if it’s wrapped in Tiffany’s robin’s egg blue ("I wanted PLATINUM, not GOLD!").

If she’s going to hate/return your Christmas present anyway, why not at least make it entertaining? The following gifts you should only get your significant other if she has a fantastic sense of humor. But then again, if she doesn’t – and you’re understandably looking to get [read more...]