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Quote of the Day

I’m not usually the “quote” type of person (I also don’t forward “hilarious” chain emails.  It is one of my best qualities), but I ran across this today while cleaning out my overstuffed Ideas folder … and I thought it was pretty dead on.  I’m not sure exactly why human beings expect to feel identically about their friends & lovers at every single moment, but perhaps the first step to combating this (and thus, the disappointment that arises when we’re surprised by the natural ups and downs of our emotions, and those of our companions) is to simply realize it [read more...]



This week’s Time Out New York column, “Dirty Words: Is fear of the b-word really about losing a piece of ourselves, or just a cover for not having found the right person?”

(photo by Pickett; dress by Tadashi; location, shoes and volunteer tattooed arms by Shane & Shawn)

Read the unedited piece below:

Fear of the B-Word
Time Out New York
July 3-8, 2008
By Julia Allison

I’ve had boyfriends my entire life, a parade of them since I was 14 – there was Peter, then Greg, then Dan, then Jeff and Mike and James and [read more...]

This week’s Time Out New York column

This week’s Time Out New York column

The Great White Lay
TIME OUT NEW YORK
By Julia Allison

Every New Yorker’s gotten it – the well-meaning but slightly clueless out-of-town relative first wants to know if “you like New York” (Um, yes? That’s why I live here?) and then invariably follows that brilliance with, “so, seen any good musicals lately? You know, like Phantom? Or … Cats?”

Well, no. I have not seen Cats lately. Nor has anyone else in New York. That is because it NO LONGER RUNS HERE.

That having been settled, the original question isn’t actually as dim as it [read more...]

My grandma watches Sex & the City.

My grandma watches Sex & the City.

Carrie-d Away
TIME OUT NEW YORK
by Julia Allison

My grandmother is 84 years old. She’s never voted outside the Republican party, she was married to my grandfather from the age of 20 until the day he died, she can count the number of Sundays she’s missed church on one hand. Until quite recently, she marveled about the wonders of the answering machine and microwave. She does not own a DVD player – or cable.

But my grandmother watches Sex and the City.

Not only does she watch it, she talks about it. Frequently. Like [read more...]

File Under: If I knew then what I know now …

File Under: If I knew then what I know now …

Caught in the Web
Time Out New York
March 12-18, 2008 
by Julia Allison

Ever since I saw Avenue Q a few years ago, whenever anyone starts a sentence with “The internet is for …” I automatically fill in “porn” in a sing-song voice, and then hum the tune in an off-key voice for the remainder of the day. It’s an annoying habit, not only because I don’t know the rest of the words, but because – let’s face it – it’s a little outdated.

The internet is still for porn, of [read more...]

From the archives, my favorite angry Letter-to-the-Editor from my college days

UNIVERSITY ENFORCING CONDOM POLICY ANATHEMA TO STUDENTS’ FREE SPEECH
THE HOYA
LETTERS TO THE EDITOR
OCTOBER 1, 2002

To the Editor:

Continuing to erode what’s left of the academic right to free speech on this campus, Georgetown’s draconian decision to prevent the condom distribution on residence hall doors sets a frightening precedent.

This is the latest in a series of rights-based infringements on the student body under the questionable premise of “protection.” In other words, the administration has unilaterally decided the course of action and chosen to act without reason or impetus from actual students. [Halting the formation of a] Lesbian [read more...]

Gossip blogs gone too far

Gossip blogs gone too far

Techcrunch editor Michael Arrington wrote an incisive piece today about the new(ish) but increasingly rampant trend of gossip blogging about people who are not celebrities (welcome to my life).  Having been a frequent and continuous target of these blogs for the last two years, I’ve commented on this subject before.  Although Arrington refers specifically to the Silicon Valley-centric (and Gawker media owned) Valleywag, his arguments could be applied to any community’s insider media vehicle.

I say “media vehicle” here because irresponsible gossiping certainly isn’t restricted to blogs; what blogs have done – [read more...]

SHOCKING NEWS! Girls who write about sex don’t necessarily have more of it!

SHOCKING NEWS! Girls who write about sex don’t necessarily have more of it!

As the writer of a blog called Sex and the Ivy, Harvard student Lena Chen promotes herself as something of an authority on sex. The 20-year-old sociology major is a minor celebrity around campus for her musings on hook-ups, booty calls and friends with benefits. So Chen, as self-appointed poster girl for what could be called a group of brainy girls gone wild, was an obvious choice to document a week’s worth of conquests for a national magazine’s online sex diary. Except [read more...]

7th Period: 7 Weeks by Gym Class Heroes I don’t usually quote entire songs (below), but one of the best things about Gym Class Heroes is that their lyrics almost always actually tell a story.  Shocking, right? This gave me a glimpse into the life of a band on the road … which is completely foreign to me.  (But newly fascinating!) You have to understand, I was raised in the most traditional suburban environment EVER.  Everyone’s parents were lawyers or doctors or teachers or businesspeople, and surrounded by that, I internalized the idea that those were … well … the only options.  Looking back, it seems crazy that I thought such a thing, but that’s all I knew!!  Even at Georgetown, where “politician” and “banker” were added to the half dozen acceptable career paths, my professional worldview remained extremely limited. It’s really only in NY that I’ve realized people can make their livings doing the most creative, amazing things – designers, artists, programmers, singers, comedians, stylists, television pundits ;)  I wish every suburban kid knew they didn’t have to stick with their narrow-minded parental/career counselor recommendations. And listening to a song that explores this alternative lifestyle – both ups and downs – but ends by saying “I love my life” – is really inspiring. EVERYONE should feel that way about their life. “7 Weeks”(feat. William Beckett) My life’s these yellow lines, concrete, and parliament butts Exhaust fumes and rest stops who drive hard for their bucks Load in, sound check, play show, load out, let’s go, next city, oh great, off day Hangovers, hangups, dialbacks, running make up, apologies and promises And nobody acknowledges that boys in bands got it so damn bad But we love like the last cigarette we’ll ever have I’m putting miles on my body, bout due for a tune up in this gas station, food ain’t really helping but I’m loving every minute, every road signs a reminder of exactly why we did it to begin with This is how it has to be A kiss for luck, submerge myself And in 7 weeks resurface Even if we don’t look back again Tired boys and wired eyes Exposing imperfections To the public eye we’re perfect Even if we don’t look back again I like these hotels, passports, random bag checks, day dreams of love affairs that I haven’t had yet Touch down, baggage claim, new town, different dame, same clothes, 7 days, whew, damn I need to change And it’s a lifestyle that I wouldn’t recommend Wild N Out on a level Nick Cannon couldn’t comprehend (fuck outta here) We made a lot of friends and even more enemies Some of which were genuine and others just pretend to be It’s all gravy baby, life’s lovely Even when the gray rain cloud’s right above me The girl’s textin’ me talkin’ about gettin’ all cuddly Cause you paint a pretty picture but the frame is so ugly This is how it has to be A kiss for luck, submerge myself And in 7 weeks resurface Even if we don’t look back again Tired boys and wired eyes Exposing imperfections To the public eye we’re perfect Even if we don’t look back again And now it’s back in a van with four of my mans Until we catchin’ a tan on the Florida sands I feel like tourin’ this land’s made me more of a man From killa California to the shores of Japan Good times stayin’ up late in Austin Coast to coast V8 to Chicago To gettin’ up with Johnny Cupcakes in Boston And smokin’ that most great eight in Colorado Home ain’t home no more I hug the road and kiss the concrete and sometimes I even hear her heartbeat No matter where we go or where we at We carry upstate on our back, it’s like that This is how it has to be A kiss for luck, submerge myself And in 7 weeks resurface Even if we don’t look back again Tired boys and wired eyes Exposing imperfections To the public eye we’re perfect Even if we don’t look back again This is how it has to be A kiss for luck, submerge myself And in 7 weeks resurface Even if we don’t look back again Tired boys and wired eyes Exposing imperfections To the public eye we’re perfect Even if we don’t look back again “So a lot of you don’t realize. There’s a whole subculture of boys driving around in vans.” Even if we don’t look back again “Looking for your daughters, and your lottery tickets. Love it or leave it. I’m like this” Even if we don’t look back again “I love my life. Bitches.” Even if we don’t look back again Even if we don’t look back again

7th Period: 7 Weeks by Gym Class Heroes

I don’t usually quote entire songs (below), but one of the best things about Gym Class Heroes is that their lyrics almost always actually tell a story.  Shocking, right?

This gave me a glimpse into the life of a band on the road … which is completely foreign to me.  (But newly fascinating!)

You have to understand, I was raised in the most traditional suburban environment EVER.  Everyone’s parents were lawyers or doctors or teachers or businesspeople, and surrounded by that, I internalized the idea that those were … [read more...]



This week’s Time Out New York column …

Exit Strategy
Time Out New York
January 30 – February 5, 2008 
By Julia Allison

It’s hard enough to break up with your significant other when you were clearly in a relationship. But how do you deal with ending something in those nebulous first stages – before it’s actually, well … a real-ationship?

You know, you go out a few times, or perhaps you even date for a few months, but you never have the “exclusivity talk.” Then, for whatever reason, you (or he … or both of you!) decide not to pursue [read more...]