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BIG NEWS: I’M MOVING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My landlord sold the apartment in which I now live, and I have to be out by August 13th, so I spent the past two weeks looking for apartments in Manhattan – but when I put a deposit down on one I really liked, something just didn’t feel right.

So after (almost) six years in New York, I’ve decided it’s time to, uh, mix it up a bit.  

I’ve been thinking about moving since October of last year, but inertia (and perhaps a bit of fear) got in my way.  Plus, as [read more...]

Flashback: My First (& so far, only!) Commencement Address

I ran across this tonight while doing research for a presentation I have to complete for Friday … and since it’s commencement season, I thought you might enjoy it.  Wayyyy back in 2008, my then-intern Samantha asked me if I could speak at her high school, and I was honored to do so.

Anyway, I don’t think I ever posted it, or if I did, I don’t remember doing so.  Then again, I rarely remember anything except that I really like dessert.

Mmm … dessert.

Commencement Address to Baruch College Campus High School
June 26, 2008
Julia Allison


[Samantha introduces me]

Thanks [read more...]

Hello from the ashram …

I won’t write long today – I’ve already written pages and pages and pages in my little notebook, but I wanted to share a bit of my experience here with you before I go back offline.  In fact, I wasn’t expecting to have internet access here, but they do (as one of the monks said upon seeing my iPhone, “Oh, you should download the Om Meditation 108 app!”  I laughed … it’s a modern ashram, indeed).

Mostly I’ve stayed off my laptop (this is the first time I’ve really typed in a week), preferring instead to write longhand, but I’ve [read more...]



You all know I’ve been having a difficult time of it lately … but for some reason, two days ago, my perspective suddenly (without warning) shifted.  It felt like a Magic Eye, where I was squinting at the painting for hours and hours trying to see the hidden picture, and then – BOOM – I saw it.

One of my biggest issues – and I think this is the case for many of us – is that we’re our own worst enemies in terms of finding happiness (or contentment, which is probably a better adjective).  We focus [read more...]

My Existential Crisis (& What I’ve Been Doing for the Past Eight Months)

So, I’ve sublet my apartment to a lovely young woman (a reader!) who works for a wonderful non-profit, and I will be taking some time off New York.  That probably sounds more dramatic than it actually is, as those of you who follow my travel schedule know that I haven’t spent more than three consecutive weeks in this city for the last two and a half years anyway … so what’s a month away in the scheme of things?

That said, it’s an important move for me, psychologically.  As much as I love this city – and I do love [read more...]

It’s about as frustrating as being chained to the tv while Latin American soap operas play nonstop. You can tell there’s something good going on, but you can’t understand what the hell it is!

It’s about as frustrating as being chained to the tv while Latin American soap operas play nonstop. You can tell there’s something good going on, but you can’t understand what the hell it is!
from one of my old COED columns.  Har.

My generation happens to excel at waiting.

My generation happens to excel at waiting.

- NYT op-ed by an 18-year-old

Um … how, exactly, does her generation “excel at waiting”??  Waiting the 3 minutes it takes for their YouTube videos to upload?  Waiting .00003 miliseconds for a google search to finish?  Waiting 20 seconds for the credit card machines to instantly process in the backs of the cabs?  Waiting 10 seconds to fast-forward through the commercials of the show you’ve just TIVO’d?  Or the 15 seconds it takes to press the one-click on iTunes to buy the latest ep of Gossip Girl??

Right.

THANK THE LORD [read more...]

Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn’t fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it’s comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you’re very lucky, a plane ride away.

Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn’t fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it’s comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you’re very lucky, a plane ride away.
Carrie Bradshaw, emailed to me tonight by Florida reader Kate.  No matter what you think of quoting Sex and the City (yeah, some of you feel it’s dicey, [read more...]

Post Breakup

Sometimes the heart doesn’t mourn the relationship you had so much as the life you thought you would have together in the future. You know?

Sometimes the heart doesn’t mourn the relationship you had so much as the life you thought you would have together in the future. You know?

Okay, I promised (myself) I wouldn’t post any more today, but I just got a reader email which wondered why I was so upset over the breakup of someone I had been seeing since early November, and I really want to write about this.  So, since I know that if I don’t, I’ll just ruminate about it instead, I’m going to, and hopefully I’ll get it out of my system.

My initial reaction was twofold: [read more...]