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On Internet “Celebrity”

In a recent interview, when I asked Julia what prompted her to become an Internet Celeb, she quickly denied that such an unlikely path was her goal. “I think it would be a bit inane to say ‘Oh yes, I set out to become an ‘internet celebrity,’ as if I checked a box my senior year at the career center, next to ‘aimless law student’ and ’soulless banker’,” she postured.

She also believes that “Internet celebrity is arguably the least useful media vocation one could fill, although some could make a case that “reality show star” trumps it, if only [read more...]

So …

An interesting thing happened after I posted “We Need to Talk” – I was flooded (ish) with kind emails from readers.  Which made me feel good.  Which made me want to post more.  Which is exactly what I shouldn’t be doing.

Wait … Why?

Here’s the deal: it’s fantastic to have the approval of others.  It’s a high.  I want people to like me.  I crave it!  I think many of us do.  (That’s certainly what Ariel is saying in the Authenticity vs. Attention post.)

But that high comes with a downside: “The very thing that gives you [read more...]

Hi. We need to talk.

So, I’ve been getting a few emails recently from “concerned readers.”  What were they concerned about, you ask?  Well – ostensibly – me.

Why am I not writing so much? they wanted to know.  Why have I not tried therapy? they wanted to know.  When will I apologize publicly to Jakob Lodwick? they demanded.  (Um?  Wha???) What will I do now that I’ve “lost my looks”? (Yes, I got an entire email which used that very phrase.)

There were some positive questions too (So what’s up with all the posts and info about your weight?  Have you looked at yourself [read more...]

No one has all the answers … and sometimes the best we can do is just apologize, and let the past be the past. Other times, we need to look to the future and know that even when we think we’ve seen it all … life can still surprise us. And we can still surprise ourselves.

No one has all the answers … and sometimes the best we can do is just apologize, and let the past be the past. Other times, we need to look to the future and know that even when we think we’ve seen it all … life can still surprise us. And we can still surprise ourselves.
Gossip Girl made me tear up tonight.  Yeah, I admitted it.  I’m not ashamed.

Questions to ask your mom this Mother’s Day (or, er … tomorrow)

1. What’s the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?
2. Why did you choose to be with my father?
3. In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you?
4. Which one of your kids do you like the best?
5. Is there anything you’ve always wanted to tell me but never have?
6. Do you think it’s easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?
7. Is there anything you regret not having asked your mom?
8. What’s the best thing I can do for you right now?
9. Is there anything [read more...]

Okay, okay, I know that logically the model in this commercial probably isn’t happier than you or me … but when I watched it, I just really wanted to be her, speaking French, living in Paris with perfect French bangs, riding French bicycles and skipping around in small pink French dresses without shoes along the Champs Elysees while gorgeous French men kiss me and pastel balloons float about in the French air. … mmmmm (reverie about my make-believe French life while Champs Elysees plays in my head) … Nice work Dior.  With ads this effective, is it really a coincidence I already own your perfume?



First Date Postmortem!

So … I don’t usually do this, but I got the okay (actually, although he was fine with me sharing them, I’m going to keep his name and visage off, just in case.  When it comes to the internet, I’ve learned that people don’t always know what they’re getting themselves into, and I’d rather error on the side of caution.)

Anyway!  As those of you who read this little site know, I’ve been going on a lot of dates recently – at least one or two a week, when I’m in town.  Most of [read more...]

I think that Matt may well have learned the secret to happiness.

I think that Matt may well have learned the secret to happiness.

I just spent the better part of an hour reading about Matt – as in “Where the Hell is Matt?” – whose first dancing video I had seen years ago – in his FAQ.

It’s exactly what I needed.

You probably know the whole story, but in case you don’t …

Matt was just a guy – a guy who wanted to travel.  And so he quit his job as a video game developer, and with his meager savings embarked upon a trip around the [read more...]



So, I’ve lived in my tiny “pink palace” since October of 2007, and I’m starting to think about the next steps: namely – moving somewhere where I can own, say … a couch.  A girl’s gotta dream.

Things I love about my apartment:

1) It’s brand new, so it never feels dirty, even when it is.
2) It has a balcony.  The balcony was under construction for the first 17 months, but it has one.
3) It has a washer/dryer, with which I am obsessed.
4) It has the biggest bathtub in the entire city of New York.  The bathtub [read more...]

More than a year ago …

I went on CNN and said the following:

“I think the real story here is the fact that the media prior to this controlled all dissemination of information about celebrities. But now we have celebrities able to come out on their own blogs and do their own thing, and actually counteract stuff like this, which is really powerful.” “But I don’t think that that — I mean, I really don’t think that that’s the big question here. The question is, should the media be snarky and then have celebrities come out and say, you know what, that’s appropriate? The celebrities [read more...]