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RESOLVED: “Let it unfold” in 2009

Okay, ummm, errrr … I’ve thought about these for weeks – some for months – and so, as a result, this is pretty much the longest list of resolutions, ever (the Bible notwithstanding).  I guess I just like resolutions!  Anyway, the whole process inspired me – and that’s never a bad thing.  I hope it inspires you, too.



The most important resolution I have for 2009 is existential, and I’m having touble summing it up in a few words: Let It Unfold.  It has to do with what I wrote here: shucking the OBO principle[read more...]

HAPPY 91st birthday to my maternal grandfather, Herbert!

Here he is in the late 80s teaching me woodshop in Fallbrook, California, where they lived when I was growing up.  My mother grew up in Pacific Palisades (like me, she lived in the same house the entirety of her childhood – now I think “how crazy to think of living in one spot for that long?!”), and they moved to Fallbrook around the time my parents got married, in 1978.  I always spent two or three weeks every summer out there; it was like camp.  Pool with diving [read more...]

Your 2008 in Review

Thanks to Mary Schmich of the Chicago Tribune for this!  She publishes something about reflecting every New Years, and this one is from 2007, I’ve just changed the date.  Fill it out, seriously.  I’m going to.  I promise you won’t regret doing it.


When you consciously review your year, you may notice how little you noticed it as it whizzed past. To review is to re-view. To rewind, pause, look again. And in looking again, to see more clearly.

You may be astonished by how much happened. And how much didn’t. By how much has changed. [read more...]

On my way to Christmas lunch with my Grandmother, in my Grandma-Friendly Outfit.

The skirt’s actually a little shorter than I would like, but I’m wearing heavy tights, so … well.  We’ll see.

A year ago, I was sitting at this exact same seat (at the counter in my parents’ kitchen) playing Apologize over and over (uh, and not randomly. Listen to the lyrics).  Despite insistences that I was “fine, no really I’m fine. I’M GREAT!”, the truth is, I wasn’t fine.  I was far, far, far from fine.

What a difference a year – and two amazing women – makes.  I thought about this when I received the following email from a distraught reader:

From: [redacted]
Date: December 17, 2008 7:38:17 AM EST
To: Julia Allison
Subject: on a bus [read more...]

Oh, the cliche of it all.

The characters have to struggle with the fact that the AA system is teaching them fairly deep things through these seemingly simplistic clichés.

It’s hard for the ones with some education, which, to be mercenary, is who this book is targeted at. I mean this is caviar for the general literary fiction reader. For me there was a real repulsion at the beginning. “One Day at a Time,” right? I’m thinking 1977, Norman Lear, starring Bonnie Franklin. Show me the needlepointed sampler this is written on. But apparently part of addiction is that you need the substance so bad that [read more...]

Reader Email: “If I had put my thoughts and dreams on a public forum I would have been slaughtered.”

The below email inspired me, and it will probably inspire you.

Before you read, please know that if a few curmudgeonly naysayers could make me back down from what I wanted to do, then I’d still be in the corner hiding from when I got kicked off of the radio station as a sophomore in high school.  (For playing “Let’s Talk about Sex.” In case you were wondering.)

People whose dreams have been silenced sometimes attempt to make themselves feel better by denigrating yours.  Show me a happy person who pees on people’s parades!  Who insults when others are excited!  [read more...]

One can live at a low flame. Most people do. For some, life is an exercise in moderation (best china saved for special occasions), but given something like death, what does it matter if one looks foolish now and then, or tries too hard, or cares too deeply?

One can live at a low flame. Most people do. For some, life is an exercise in moderation (best china saved for special occasions), but given something like death, what does it matter if one looks foolish now and then, or tries too hard, or cares too deeply?

Diane Ackerman

I look foolish far more than “now and then,” I try too hard 80% of the time, and with regard to caring too deeply?  Always.  ALWAYS.  It’s my greatest strength and my biggest weakness.

Better TV’s segment on NonSociety.  Woo! Update: HAHAHAHHAH oh my god, I almost fell off the chair around 2:40, when they changed the music dramatically and did the voiceover “There is a dark side to lifecasting” and showed the photo of Jakob Lodwick.  So. So. funny.

With CNN political reporter Leslie Sanchez, after the interview (June 3, 2008).  She’s incredibly intelligent and, as you can see, quite lovely.

Transcript of first portion follows.  Read second part here.

Leslie Sanchez: Thank you so much. I am so excited. I told several Republican and Democratic strategists I was coming to see you…

Julia Allison: [laughs] That’s where I started out. I was actually working for a Republican on the Hill. And he was what we call a RINO – Republican in name only – very fiscally conservative, very socially liberal. So that [read more...]