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ex·pert [n., ek-spurt]   Noun: “A person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.” I consider myself an expert in many fields. ;-)

Julia Allison is a journalist, entrepreneur, public speaker, relationship expert, columnist for ELLE.com, star of BRAVO's "Miss Advised," Georgetown graduate & former WIRED cover girl. She's made hundreds of appearances on NBC, CBS, ABC, Fox, CNN, MSNBC, VH1 & MTV, written for Newsweek, The Chicago Tribune, Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, Time Out New York and The New York Post & spoken at MIT, Wharton, Harvard on new media, personal branding, marketing & entrepreneurship.

Writing

JUST BE YOURSELF (TM) 



JUST BE YOURSELF (TM) 
TIME OUT NEW YORK
FEBRUARY 6-12, 2008
BY JULIA ALLISON

“Attention whore,” “slut with a pen,” “useless ho-bag, “Chiclet-toothed asshole,” “old, ugly and over” (at 26, no less!) and—my personal favorite—“dumber than an autistic child.” Almost immediately after I began writing a dating column several years ago, critics/bloggers tore me apart.

Why? Because I had the “audacity” to be myself—and then market it: Julia Allison™. (Isn’t that terminology totally obnoxious???) To me, this means being outspoken, brutally, sometimes uncomfortably honest, imperfect but positive. Thisis self-marketing. And every single person should do it.

People get marketing all wrong. They think [read more...]

EXIT STRATEGY: WHEN IS A RELATIONSHIP REAL ENOUGH FOR A PROPER ENDING?



EXIT STRATEGY: WHEN IS A RELATIONSHIP REAL ENOUGH FOR A PROPER ENDING?
TIME OUT NEW YORK
JANUARY 30-FEBRUARY 5, 2008
BY JULIA ALLISON

It’s hard enough to break up with your S.O. when you were clearly in a relationship. But how do you deal with ending something in those nebulous first stages—before it’s a real-ationship?

You know, you go out a few times, or perhaps you even date for a few months, but you never have the “exclusivity talk.” Then, for whatever reason, he or she disappears. While it’s easy to dismiss these embryonic affairs, they can be like paper [read more...]

HANGING UP



HANGING UP
TIME OUT NEW YORK
JANUARY 24-30, 2007
BY JULIA ALLISON

Ask anyone who has gone through a painful breakup (or worse, a painful relationship) whether their significant other “affected their mental health,” and you’ll get a withering stare worthy of a teenager dismissing his parents’ ineffable uncoolness. Duh.

No one in the history of the world has been in love without some downs, but there’s a huge difference between some minor turmoil and then those relationships—you know exactly which ones I’m talking about—that cause serious mental distress.

Good relationships shouldn’t consistently make you cry. That this is so obvious belies [read more...]