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PUBLICIST LARA SHIFFMAN IS CHICAGO’S CUPID

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PUBLICIST LARA SHIFFMAN IS CHICAGO’S CUPID
MICHIGAN AVENUE MAGAZINE
FEBRUARY 2012
BY JULIA ALLISON

Lara Shiffman is the most successful Chicago matchmaker you can’t hire.  With dozens of relationships, five marriages and eleven (11!) babies to her credit, Shiffman’s matches are the stuff of legend, fairy tale – or at least a very profitable business.  The irony?  She’s not even a professional.

“My whole life I’ve introduced people, both in business and socially,” says the irrepressible blonde, who runs the strategic consulting firm JKLS PR, with her business partner, Jill Katz (who met her husband through [read more...]

People get overwhelmed with choices, bombarded with information, and become afraid of the risk of drawing a line in the sand.

People get overwhelmed with choices, bombarded with information, and become afraid of the risk of drawing a line in the sand. Psychologists have a term for this — choice overload. In the presence of an abundance of information or too many choices, people often become overwhelmed and frozen. Those individuals inevitably revert to what is easiest, effectively making no decision at all. That can be dangerous in business and in life.

Harvard Business Review

Although this post had absolutely nothing to do with dating, I do believe this is, in essence, the definitive explanation for the current dating crisis [read more...]

Stuff I Learned Today

Oh, hi.

So one of the things I like to do in life is Learn Stuff.  It feels good and it doesn’t require sweating (usually) and sometimes when I break away from obsessively staring at my laptop every six days or so to interact with real people I can tell them about the Stuff I Learned and they will smile and say “Wow, you Learn some new Stuff every day!” and I will smile back and say “Totally! Isn’t Learning Stuff great??” and everyone will be glad they don’t have to write a ten-page essay on it.

Today, whilst doing [read more...]

Can We Still Be Friends?

Can We Still Be Friends? – Todd Rundgren

I sort of want to assign this as a ringtone to all of my exes.  Although, now that I think about it, very few of them call me … ever … but, uh, you know … if they did, having this ringtone assigned to them would make the experience THAT MUCH MORE AWESOME.

Actually, the most recent ex & I are friends, and when he calls, it still pops up with a photo of us together.  I should probably change that, but I don’t really have the heart.

Meghan likes [read more...]

YAY! According to the NYT, the new First Date is a CREATIVE date!

YAY! According to the NYT, the new First Date is a CREATIVE date!

Thank god.  I’ve been sick of D&D (dinner & drinks) for YEARS.  That’s why Prom King’s continuous imagination when it came to taking me out was such a turn on!  (Don’t get all weird, we’re still friends, it’s all good.  I even sent him this article – he should have been quoted in it! haha)

And this new site – How About We? – is BRILLIANT.  If I were dating (which I’m pretty much not) I would sign up.  Actually, you know – maybe I’ll [read more...]



In case you missed my declaration of celibacy in the New York Post, you can read the piece here.

I will say this: not dating has really freed up a lot of time!  hahahah

A month later, I still feel this way (click on this title to read the post), and I still haven’t gone on a date.

A month later, I still feel this way (click on this title to read the post), and I still haven’t gone on a date.

So I decided to codify my unofficial gut reaction of “I really don’t feel like dating” into an official “No Dating, No Sex” stance, at least for the next month, and perhaps beyond that.

Shockingly, while I still miss Prom King (yep. STILL.), I don’t miss casual dating at all.  Deciding to go cold turkey on it just feels like the right thing to do (as Oprah would say “I feel it in my bones”).  [read more...]

Wow.  I have are no words … that are polite … to describe this video.  And I love the ladies over at YourTango, but: WTF!??!?!



So back when I was first out of college, I wrote a monthly dating column for COED magazine – a sort of collegiate Maxim, if you will.  I also did regular Q&A on their website (with the above graphic as the header – yep, I was a baby in that photo).  Today, when I was looking for an old document, I stumbled across these.  Thought you might get a kick out of them.  This is circa 2005, btw.  :)

Q: I have a new girlfriend at school, and I’m wondering [read more...]

You need a commitment strategy, not an exit strategy.

You need a commitment strategy, not an exit strategy.
from the NYT bestseller ReWork, which my mom is now reading aloud to me.  It’s (obviously) a business book, but, as my mom just said, “This sounds like good relationship advice!”