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Post Breakup

Sometimes the heart doesn’t mourn the relationship you had so much as the life you thought you would have together in the future. You know?

Sometimes the heart doesn’t mourn the relationship you had so much as the life you thought you would have together in the future. You know?

Okay, I promised (myself) I wouldn’t post any more today, but I just got a reader email which wondered why I was so upset over the breakup of someone I had been seeing since early November, and I really want to write about this.  So, since I know that if I don’t, I’ll just ruminate about it instead, I’m going to, and hopefully I’ll get it out of my system.

My initial reaction was twofold: [read more...]



You know, I hadn’t changed my Relationship Status on Facebook in the last THREE YEARS (not that I hadn’t been in relationships, I just never thought it was a good idea to … I don’t know … mess around with jinxing it or whatever).  And then I did, and now I feel sort of horrible/stupid changing it back to “single.”  It might as well just say “Julia just FAILED at yet another relationship.”

Does that mean I shouldn’t have changed it in the first place?  You know, at the time I was so excited about it …  [read more...]



I really should be heading over to my place to pack for tomorrow’s flight to LA (I’m holding up my eyelids, I’m so tired), but I wanted to address a few comments I’ve gotten recently …

I know Prom King has a tendency to plan – and execute – extravagant events.  He’s quite well-known among his circle for being, uh … in the kindest possible terms, “a former player” (that would be until a few months ago, FYI, hahah) … but he’s never done these sorts of things for any other girl he’s dated (his sister and [read more...]



T minus FOUR DAYS until the BIG RED & PINK DAY O’ LOVE!!

Valentine’s Day, whoooooooooo!!!!!!

Ah, yes, I do shamelessly adore this holiday.

Write in (julia@nonsociety.com) and I’ll publish the best responses! Let me know:

1) What you plan to do for your bf/gf, friends, mom, grandmother!  I like to get cards, cupcakes or small gifts for everyone, not just boys.  In fact, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about “romantic” love. It’s about love in general!  And the color pink.  But mostly love – all sorts of love – agape, eros, philia, whatever you’re [read more...]

A word about my "Romantic Life": Um … I’m not single anymore

I wrote the below entry back on December 2, 2009.  I did not, obviously, publish it.  Why?  For a multitude of reasons, not the least of which was – as I explain in the penultimate ‘graf – I was at a “very weird stage” with several young men.

And as you might have suspected, I am no longer at that weird stage.  I do, in fact, officially have a boyfriend. (whoa!!) That news is both joyful and bittersweet, because I grew to care for two of the young men very much.  They were – are – both good people, intelligent [read more...]

Just because I’m not watching the Superbowl doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy the ads. And yes, of course I got chills and teared up a little.  Because that’s who I am and that’s what I do. I’m not going to apologize for being a hopeless romantic. Sometimes life rewards you for it. ;)

The female’s strategy is a compromise – a trade-off between on the one hand the greater risk of mating with a bad male if she mates too quickly, and on the other hand the time cost of delay.

The female’s strategy is a compromise – a trade-off between on the one hand the greater risk of mating with a bad male if she mates too quickly, and on the other hand the time cost of delay.
File under: “the truth, ain’t this”

Mating Patterns: The Ideal Female Strategy is a Trade Off

Why You Can’t Hurry Love

Scientists have developed a mathematical model of the mating game to help explain why courtship is often protracted. The study, by researchers at UCL (University College London), University of Warwick and LSE (London School of Economics and Political Science), shows that extended courtship enables a male to signal his suitability to a female and enables the female to screen out the male if he is unsuitable as a mate.

The research, published this month in the Journal of Theoretical Biology, uses game theory to analyse how males and females behave strategically towards each other [read more...]