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Singing out of the stretch limo’s sunroof on my Prom Date themed Blind first date tonight.

Unbelievably epic.



He actually MADE A PROM MIX for us to listen to in the limo.

This guy gets so many points for extra effort, he needs a man purse just to carry them.

Games are … well, partly because people are assholes and crazy, and partly because people aren’t comfortable with each other. Most games are played out of fear – insecurity, desire not to be embarrassed, not to appear too interested and get shot down. In that respect they’re valuable because if you can get through all that then your relationship is better for it.

Games are … well, partly because people are assholes and crazy, and partly because people aren’t comfortable with each other. Most games are played out of fear – insecurity, desire not to be embarrassed, not to appear too interested and get shot down. In that respect they’re valuable because if you can get through all that then your relationship is better for it.
Dan

Reason #2855 I’m UnDateable

Sigh.

Remember that Wife Fluffers article I was working on for Cosmo about, oh, say, a year ago?

No?  This (or this or this or this) might jog your memory.

Well, it’s finally being published in their January issue, over a year after I wrote it. Yay!

Ironically, I just found out that the fellow I dated last fall just moved in with his (adorable) girlfriend, whom I’m totally betting he’ll marry.  That’s pre-wife fluffing, as far as I’m concerned, and definitely gets added to my total.

I have a gift.

We had this conversation a few weeks ago … I just rediscovered it in my email drafts & it made me laugh.

A bit of (brutal?) honesty on this warm September evening

From: [redacted]
Date: September 23, 2009 8:44:12 PM EDT
To: julia@nonsociety.com
Subject: thank you

hey—-

I just wanted to say thank you for your video tonight. i like you best when you’re brutally honest and i am sure it’s hard to be that honest and open with the internets, cause of all the weirdos and haters out there. you should take lilly for a walk, go to a museum, or just take a little break from thinking about it. loneliness can slam into you from nowhere and it’s hard, but i think accepting it is the first step towards moving forward and finding someone to [read more...]

A bit o dating advice with Ms Chung.

Reader Email: "sex-related tears are indicative of a large and complicated set of emotions – elation, fear, frustration, exhaustion, love, sadness, disgust, arousal, perhaps all of the above"

From: [redacted]
Date: September 1, 2009 3:06:23 AM EDT
To: julia@nonsociety.com
Subject: ;) + :*( = ?


Hi Julia,

I think it’s great you’re revisiting this idea of crying during sex a few years after you first covered it, because in my (limited) experience, it’s a phenomenon that changes over time – as a woman ages, as our lives complicate and simplify, and as the relationship matures (or disintegrates).

A quick, illustrative set of examples:

The first time was with my high school sweetheart.  It was right around graduation, and we’d snuck off to his empty house after our giddy inability to keep our hands [read more...]