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This week’s Time Out New York column

This week’s Time Out New York column

The Great White Lay
TIME OUT NEW YORK
By Julia Allison

Every New Yorker’s gotten it – the well-meaning but slightly clueless out-of-town relative first wants to know if “you like New York” (Um, yes? That’s why I live here?) and then invariably follows that brilliance with, “so, seen any good musicals lately? You know, like Phantom? Or … Cats?”

Well, no. I have not seen Cats lately. Nor has anyone else in New York. That is because it NO LONGER RUNS HERE.

That having been settled, the original question isn’t actually as dim as it [read more...]

My grandma watches Sex & the City.

My grandma watches Sex & the City.

Carrie-d Away
TIME OUT NEW YORK
by Julia Allison

My grandmother is 84 years old. She’s never voted outside the Republican party, she was married to my grandfather from the age of 20 until the day he died, she can count the number of Sundays she’s missed church on one hand. Until quite recently, she marveled about the wonders of the answering machine and microwave. She does not own a DVD player – or cable.

But my grandmother watches Sex and the City.

Not only does she watch it, she talks about it. Frequently. Like [read more...]

File Under: If I knew then what I know now …

File Under: If I knew then what I know now …

Caught in the Web
Time Out New York
March 12-18, 2008 
by Julia Allison

Ever since I saw Avenue Q a few years ago, whenever anyone starts a sentence with “The internet is for …” I automatically fill in “porn” in a sing-song voice, and then hum the tune in an off-key voice for the remainder of the day. It’s an annoying habit, not only because I don’t know the rest of the words, but because – let’s face it – it’s a little outdated.

The internet is still for porn, of [read more...]

SHOCKING NEWS! Girls who write about sex don’t necessarily have more of it!

SHOCKING NEWS! Girls who write about sex don’t necessarily have more of it!

As the writer of a blog called Sex and the Ivy, Harvard student Lena Chen promotes herself as something of an authority on sex. The 20-year-old sociology major is a minor celebrity around campus for her musings on hook-ups, booty calls and friends with benefits. So Chen, as self-appointed poster girl for what could be called a group of brainy girls gone wild, was an obvious choice to document a week’s worth of conquests for a national magazine’s online sex diary. Except [read more...]

"Dear Julia" … what works & what doesn’t!

I tend to publish the particularly retarded date request emails I get – mostly because A) those are much funnier and B) retarded date requests (or even worse, boring ones) outnumber the good by a factor of 239 to 1. Seriously, that’s probably the ratio. In my six years of being a dating columnist, I’m guessing I’ve gotten more than 3,000 requests (not counting any of the voicemails from the cover last week). I think I’ve accepted 15 of them. Still, one reader I dated for a little over a year, so clearly anything can happen.

Anyway, in the spirit [read more...]

Even though you’re not ‘looking for a husband,’ you deserve to have a boyfriend who’s good enough to be one.

Even though you’re not ‘looking for a husband,’ you deserve to have a boyfriend who’s good enough to be one.
my mom, on the phone with me tonight. It was an “aha!” moment.



This week’s Time Out New York column …

Exit Strategy
Time Out New York
January 30 – February 5, 2008 
By Julia Allison

It’s hard enough to break up with your significant other when you were clearly in a relationship. But how do you deal with ending something in those nebulous first stages – before it’s actually, well … a real-ationship?

You know, you go out a few times, or perhaps you even date for a few months, but you never have the “exclusivity talk.” Then, for whatever reason, you (or he … or both of you!) decide not to pursue [read more...]

I think I’m getting close to a moment of truth here.

A certain girl friend of mine has told me on many occasions that if I dressed more conservatively (turtlenecks, pants), I could sleep around without getting a reputation.

Facts:

I don’t sleep with a lot of men (J was the only guy I slept with since June). I don’t even fool around. Actually, I rarely go on dates.

I like to dress sexy, which frequently includes cleavage and high heels, etc.

Conclusion people draw:

I am a slut.

So, we can see here that perception is everything. When I wrote an article for Time Out New York on the “best” [read more...]

Ex Batting Averages

I believe – well – at least this is true for me, in any case – that you can love your exes without wanting to be back together again.

Someone emailed me the other day about Dan, my high school boyfriend, asking if I still had feelings for him. Um … yes – I love him very much!  But I haven’t had romantic feelings for him in years. I mean, we started dating a DECADE ago! Of course, he is my precious friend … but could I ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER date him again? Absolutely not. He’s like family [read more...]

LOL LOL LOL

September 23, 1995

I’m going [to Homecoming] with my boyfriend, Peter [redacted]. I’ve been going out with Peter for 2 weeks. He has red hair and is short, but cute.

He was the first person I ever kissed – frenched. What a totally amazing experience. It is so different than you would think. It’s not that wonderful itself – what’s wonderful is knowing you’ve kissed him, and thinking about it. [Ed: HAHAHAH]

We first kissed on the beach at my house on Friday the 15th. We frenched for *so* long. Then we frenched later that night and again when he [read more...]