GUINEA PIG OF LOVE: THE PLEASURE CAMP
JULY 23, 2012
BY JULIA ALLISON
I grew up going to camp: sailing camp, ballet camp, Canadian canoe camp, even debate camp. But I’ve never attended Pleasure Camp…until now.
I’m on the floor, cross-legged on a yoga mat, surrounded by 35 other women, mostly a decade to three older that me, listening to a very beautiful, very dynamic blonde in a tight red bandage minidress tell me to visualize straddling a horse. “Inhale deeply, breathe in and out” she purrs. “Feel the creature beneath you. Up, down, [read more...]
So one of the things I like to do in life is Learn Stuff. It feels good and it doesn’t require sweating (usually) and sometimes when I break away from obsessively staring at my laptop every six days or so to interact with real people I can tell them about the Stuff I Learned and they will smile and say “Wow, you Learn some new Stuff every day!” and I will smile back and say “Totally! Isn’t Learning Stuff great??” and everyone will be glad they don’t have to write a ten-page essay on it.
Today, whilst doing [read more...]
Reader Email: "sex-related tears are indicative of a large and complicated set of emotions – elation, fear, frustration, exhaustion, love, sadness, disgust, arousal, perhaps all of the above"
Date: September 1, 2009 3:06:23 AM EDT
Subject: + :*( = ?
I think it’s great you’re revisiting this idea of crying during sex a few years after you first covered it, because in my (limited) experience, it’s a phenomenon that changes over time – as a woman ages, as our lives complicate and simplify, and as the relationship matures (or disintegrates).
A quick, illustrative set of examples:
The first time was with my high school sweetheart. It was right around graduation, and we’d snuck off to his empty house after our giddy inability to keep our hands [read more...]
I’m not sure how it came up exactly (seriously!), but this weekend Code Name TK & I were discussing the enigmatic “girls crying during sex” phenom, which he found “weird.” I actually wrote an entire article about it for COED magazine back in ‘05, but haven’t brought it up much since (although I’ve definitely cried a few times in that interim!).
What do you think?? Email me – firstname.lastname@example.org
BY JULIA ALLISON
Ask any man about women crying during sex and you’ll get a strange reaction.
First, there’s The Blank Stare – they have no idea what [read more...]